Broken Heart
Broken Heart
Broken Heart
Just about everybody has had a broken heart at some time or other and it’s important to know that you are not the only one. I am female, so I am going to write this from my own point of view, simply because I can’t do it any other way and I have had my share of broken hearts!
Death of a Loved One
I am non qualified to help you here, if the pain just doesn’t subside after your partner’s death, then you should seek counseling. Grieving can cause physical illness and although at first you think your life will never be the same, especially after the loss of a spouse, delight get professional help.
All too often we see couples that have been together for many years die within a few months of each other. It’s tragic, but with the right counseling the surviving partner can lead a good and happy life thereafter, and they should always keep all the other people who love them in mind, especially children and precious grand children. A broken heart in this case can bring on such a feeling of loss, that the subsister basically commits suicide.
Death of a Child
No parent should die before their child. If this has happened to you, you are naturally broken-hearted. It is common for human beings to try and place blame, especially subconsciously, and this is why 75% of marriages fail after the death of a child. Please get professional counseling as soon as you can to save your marriage and preserve a normal life for your family, especially if other children ar involved.
How to Deal with a Broken Heart
I brought up the two most serious cases of a broken heart above for good reason. If you have a broken heart because your boyfriend or husband left you, and you ar positive that the relationship is totally over, just imagine how you would feel if he was dead? (If you ar saying you wish he was, then you really don’t love him at all, and if you say you are a Christian, you should be ashamed of yourself!)
One of my favorite quotes about a broken heart comes from a Sting song, “if you love somebody, set them free.” It is possible to love someone and let them go, perhaps because you were incompatible!
I loved a man thirty years ago who was a villain when it came to other women. We never had a “real” relationship, we would go out occasionally and have fun but I always stepped back because I knew how bad he was for me, and that I could never be happy in a relationship with him because of his infidelity. That took a lot of inner strength, and every time I saw him with someone else, which was often, I would get such a pain in my heart I thought I was going to die!
I didn’t of course. My life moved on and I did find Mr.Right. Your Mr.Right is out there too, so don’t give up. If a relationship isn’t working now, and you weren’t married to him, be darned glad that you didn’t have any children and/or marry him.
Women ar very often attracted to men for the wrong reasons. Sit back and write yourself a list of why he was wrong for you. You may be surprised!
Call your BFF and have a night out to celebrate and look forward to Mr.Next.
If you feel you may need some help about how to get over a broken heart, there is more help here, learning to be single again can be very difficult, so there’s some great tips on how to go about becoming YOU again.